Online Safety for Sapphic Dating
TSL is built for queer women and WLW identities. These tips and tools help reduce risk, but no guide can guarantee safety. If something feels off, trust your instincts and use the tools below.
How TSL Protects You
Profile Verification
New profiles go through verification to reduce fakes and catfish. Accounts that fail checks or trigger risk signals are reviewed and removed.
Block & Report
Block or report from any profile or chat. Our moderators review reports promptly and take action, including warnings and permanent bans.
Women-Loving-Women Only
TSL is a dedicated WLW space. Attempts to infiltrate or harass our community are removed.
Privacy & Data Care
We minimize visible personal details and encourage privacy-first settings. Learn more in our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use.
Core Safety Tips
Start in-app
- Keep chats on TSL until you feel safe moving elsewhere.
- Avoid sending contact info or live locations early on.
Go slow with trust
- Genuine connections don’t rush intimacy, money, or secrets.
- If you feel pressured, that’s a signal to pause or block.
Cross-checks that help
- Look for a complete profile and consistent details.
- Ask for a quick video chat before meeting.
- If you search their name/image, do so carefully and ethically.
Red Flags & Common Scams
- Money requests (loans, emergencies, crypto).
- Love-bombing + urgency to move off-platform fast.
- Inconsistent stories, evasive about video or meeting.
- Too-perfect photos or single low-effort pic.
- Links to “verification” sites outside TSL (phishing).
If anything here pops up, report it and protect others.
Meeting IRL (In Real Life)
Before you go
- Do a brief video chat first.
- Tell a friend where you’re going; share your live location if possible.
- Plan your own transport; avoid relying on your date to get home.
During the date
- Meet in a public, well-lit place.
- Keep an eye on your drink/bag; trust your gut and leave if needed.
- Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn anytime.
Privacy & Photos
Keep your info tight
- Use unique photos that don’t appear on your public social accounts.
- Avoid posting your workplace, home exterior, or frequent hangouts.
- Turn off location tags & “live” photo metadata before sharing.
Intersectional Safety
Not everyone faces the same risks. If you’re in one or more of these groups, consider extra caution and lean on community support:
- Trans women & nonbinary people: zero tolerance for fetishization or misgendering—report immediately.
- Women of color & immigrants: be careful with identifying details; document harassment for reports.
- Neurodivergent or younger users: avoid rushed decisions; bring a friend into your safety plan.
- Users in hostile regions: consider pseudonyms, minimize photos, and use VPNs where legal.
Harassment, Consent Violations & Reporting
If it happens: It’s not your fault. Save screenshots, block the user, and email us directly so we can act.
- Tip: Attach screenshots and include the profile link when you email us.
Community-Based Safety
- Look out for each other: Share tips in TSL spaces and boost verified profiles.
- Normalize “No”: You never owe a reply, date, or explanation.
- Early flags help everyone: Report suspicious behavior even if you’re unsure.
Support Resources
Hotlines
- RAINN (US): 800-656-HOPE
- Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
- Trans Lifeline (US): 877-565-8860
- Trans Lifeline (Canada): 877-330-6366
Find Local Support
Search “LGBTQ+ center near me” for peer support, legal clinics, and counseling in your area.
If you’re in immediate danger, call your local emergency number.
FAQ
Can TSL guarantee safety?
No platform can guarantee safety. We reduce risk with verification, moderation, and swift enforcement—and we depend on community reporting.
What happens after I report?
Moderators review evidence, may contact you for details, and take actions up to permanent bans. We also look for linked accounts.
Should I meet if they refuse a video chat?
We recommend not meeting in person without a brief video chat first.
